I originally wrote this piece back in April 2011. Much of my personal life has changed – I am now happily single, to note one significant change – yet most of my professional life has remained similar. Oh, well, except for the pesky little addition of living life in a global pandemic. No big deal. (My sarcastic humor remains strong and unwavering).
Living through this global pandemic has taught me that taking care of myself is much more vital to my own wellbeing and to the care of my clients/patients. I have learned to be more creative with self care. I have learned to focus more on what I am able to control – even if it is the smallest aspect of my life, like being able to take a deep, cleansing breath right now. I have also learned to hold onto hope with even stronger conviction than ever before.
Being a Social Worker remains a core aspect of my identity. I like to think I am authentically me in my personal and professional lives, vacillating seamlessly between the two. Of course, I am not disclosing personal aspects of myself to my clients/patients, however, who I am with them is who I am with most everyone.
I have not edited the original piece below from 2011. It does still resonate with me, even if some of the references are outdated and I no longer turn to my then husband for support. The themes remain consistent and highlight, for me, what it means to be a Social Worker.
Being a Social Worker means so many different things to me. It means having the opportunity to connect with diverse, vibrant people. It means a strong level of professional integrity. It means having a deeper understanding of the human race (except for members of the GOP, that’s one mystery none of us will solve). It also means I understand myself and my family a bit more, which may or may not prove to be a positive attribute.
Being a Social Worker means that I have developed a more fine-tuned sense of humor. Chalk it up to survival. After over a decade of hearing gut-wrenching stories that often mirror Precious, if I can’t laugh at something, I would no doubt be crying at everything.
Being a Social Worker comes with the title of under-dog. I get it, we Social Workers are not always seen favorably. Many people just don’t get what we do. We’re seen as do-gooders, tree-huggers, or the annoying people that will take your kids away if you look at them wrong. (We do that, you know, but only on Tuesday mornings during a full moon). Some people have even said to my face: “Why are you a Social Worker?” with a look of disgust on their face. Those are my favorite. I can take it. Being a Social Worker means having a thick skin.
Being a Social Worker means being misunderstood. I kind of like this aspect of our profession. I am willing and able to help the people most others would never imagine working with. I am willing and able to inform others as to why the work of Social Workers is so important. Attempt to expand our collective world view.
Being a Social Worker means knowing how to work a soap box. Educate and advocate on behalf of those who do not always have the power or voice to advocate for themselves. Getting into a good debate with someone is part of the deal. These are the moments I feel most like a Social Worker. Advocating and attempting to raise awareness. Plus, I like to learn about people and see how their mind works. It’s a challenge and I kind of like that.
Call me crazy. Everyone else does. It’s okay. Being a Social Worker means embracing the crazy in all of us.
Being a Social Worker helps me navigate my daily life. I feel I’m a better wife, mother, friend and person because I’m a Social Worker. I can look at the world in a unique way. More fully enjoy the journey of life. I am willing to accept both the good days and the bad days. There are moments where I am completely frazzled and burned out. Days where I cannot look at another piece of paper or hear another heart breaking story. Thankfully for me, being a Social Worker means constantly taking care of myself.
Being a Social Worker means I constantly analyze every behavior, every discussion, everything. This can be exhausting and there are moments where I analyze something to the point of utter distortion and insanity. That’s when my husband looks at me and says, “It’s not that deep.” Thankfully I also have the awareness to know when I’ve gone too far. Being a Social Worker is a constant education in limits and boundaries.
Being a Social Worker is a big part of who I am. Being a Social Worker means that I am part of a vibrant and wonderful profession. I could not imagine myself being anything other than a Social Worker.
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